Never Have I Ever: Fabiola Torres – Type 5w6

Fabiola is intelligent, reserved, quirky and quiet. She prefers to deal with situations using fact and logic and is less likely to have an overemotional reaction. Fabiola tries not to get involved in conflict and generally keeps to herself. She also prefers to be in the background and allows others (like Devi) to take the lead in social situations.

Fabiola also has elements of a 1w9 as they can also present as being disconnected from their feelings. Additionally, she was very afraid to tell her parents about her sexuality as she didn’t want them to react badly. However, I think she cares more about gaining knowledge than doing the right thing.

At her best, she is engaged in her friendships and becomes more open to new experiences, like her relationship with Eve. She is also able to move past her problems with Devi and help her with her problems.

At her worst, she publicly lashes out at Devi, and cuts off contact from her. Some of her outburst was justified, as Devi was being very inconsiderate and rude to her friends, however, Fabiola becomes withdrawn from the relationship completely.

5s are very focused in their inner world and they are very withdrawn. Fabiola much prefers to be making her robots than being out at parties. She has very close friendships with Devi and Eleanor and is very considerate and thoughtful of them. For example, she helps Eleanor when she finds out about her mother living in LA, and when her mother leaves her again.

As 5s can be disconnected from their feelings, it took Fabiola a bit of time to realise her feelings for Eve and to act upon them. Additionally, she felt more comfortable coming out to her robot, than her friends, showing that she sometimes prefers technology to people.

She shows her wing 6 as she is very loyal to her friends and doesn’t care as much about creativity and being unique.

Tri-type: 5w6 – 1w9 – 2w1

Some quotes to describe Fabiola’s motivations

“One day, you will walk again. If not, I will build you legs.”

“We are smart. And idiots are banging all the time. We can learn how to do it, too.”

“I left a funeral to be by your side after Nick Jonas married an Indian woman that wasn’t you.”

“What I want to say is, I am… I am… I am switching from French to an AP lab this year”

“They don’t know that I’m gay.”

The Thinking Triad (5, 6, 7)

The thinking triad is also known as the ‘head’ and ‘fear’ triads as they are very ‘in their own head’ and their central emotion is fear. The thinking triad wants to find a sense of security and guidance in their world, but they do it in vastly different ways. They are concerned about the future, and are always thinking “what’s going to happen to me?” These types are prone to overthinking everything, and cannot get their minds to ‘quiet down’, hence they are the head triad.

Type 5: 5s think that they will gain security through knowledge. 5s will often retreat inwardly as they think their mind is the only safe place in the world. They are also concerned that they do not have skills to bring to reality, and rely on gaining knowledge so they are useful. 5s think that they need to be independent, so they will retreat internally and will try not to rely on anyone else. “The world is scary, the only thing I can actually control is my own mind!”

Type 6: 6s think they will gain security through their associations and relationships with others (usually authority figures). As 6s are in the centre of the triad, they focus their energy both inwardly and outwardly. 6s will often launch into action in anticipation of the future, but being afraid of the consequences and being mistaken they will retreat into themselves like a five. Depending on a 6s wings, they will do one or the other more. For example, a 6w5 will be more internally focused, whereas a 6w7 will be more outwardly nervous and show their anxiety more. e.g. “I’m worried this will happen, better stop it before it does!“

Type 7: 7s think they will gain security by experiencing the outside world and having fun. 7s seem to be afraid of nothing, however, their fear lies within their internal world, as they are afraid of their emotions. 7s focus their energy outwardly as they do not want to deal with their fear, so they keep their minds busy with external experiences. 7s try to reject their need for nurturing and drive themselves into activities to forget their need for others. E.g. “I don’t want to deal with my feelings, let’s do something fun!”

Zoey’s Extraordinary Playlist: Zoey Clarke – Type 5w6

Type
5s are often called the Investigator. They are inquisitive, logical and
detached. Type 5s have the basic desire to be competent and they often delve
deeply into a topic to acquire knowledge in the hope of being seen as knowledgeable,
capable and having a greater understanding of the world. Along with this the
type 5s fear is being seen as incompetent or useless so they want to gain
knowledge as a way to defend themselves from the outside world and people.

Zoey
is quirky, practical and emotionally detached. She is a skilled programmer and
is described by Joan as the best programmer at SPRQ Point. As a child, Zoey
often liked to take apart appliances and put them back together to learn how
they worked. She often tries to think of problems as solvable and tries to
rationalise her grief.

Prior
to gaining her gift, Zoey is very unemotional and has few friends besides Max.
She was often out of touch about what others were thinking or feeling. When
Zoey begins to hear people’s heart songs, she is often surprised at what she
hears. For example, she had no idea about Max’s feelings for her or about how much
pressure her mother was feeling to keep her household together.

At
her best, Zoey uses her ability to become more in tune with other people’s
feelings and attempts to help others with their problems. She becomes more
outgoing and builds a friendship with Joan and more forthcoming with her
feelings towards Simon.

At
her worst, Zoey becomes withdrawn and hides her feelings from others. She
begins to buckle under the pressures of her personal life and has difficulty communicating
this with the people in her life.

Within
the central love triangle, Zoey is shown to be indecisive and conflicted. When
she is glitching she sings love songs to both Max and Simon, despite not
knowing or acknowledging that she had feelings for Max. At the close of the
episode, Zoey realises that she does have feelings for Max, but she does not
want to act on them because she fears how their relationship will change.

Zoey
shows her 3 fix in how invested she is in her career, she often spends many long
hours at work and gains a promotion at the start of the series. She shows her 9
fix, in that she often withdraws from her problems and is unsure of her own
feelings.

Tri-type: 5w6 – 3w4 – 9w1

Some quotes to describe Zoey’s motivations:

“Well, I’m not really
comfortable with anything, that’s why I’m a coder.”

“Look, we both know I’m not good at feelings and emotions.
This is just a lot for me to handle right now – its not that I don’t want to
have this conversation with you right now. It’s that I can’t really.”

“I just found out a guy I like is engaged, and I am either going totally nuts, or I suddenly can hear people’s innermost thoughts as big musical numbers.”

“There’s been a radical shift in the way I perceive the world.”

“Believe it or not, I didn’t really play any sports growing up.”

“Emily and I aren’t really the tightest. She’s kind of acerbic. I’m kind of stand-offish.”

“Stammers too much. Lacks confidence. Wears too many sweaters over collared shirts.” Not sure how that one is quite performance related. “Can’t delegate. Tries too hard. I deserved the promotion, not her.”

Maggie
(about Zoey): “There’s a lot of grey area to this stuff that math and science
people like yourself have a hard time wrapping your head around.”

Hornevian Types/Social Styles in the Enneagram

The Hornevian Groups were created and named for Karen Horney, who first suggested there were groupings based on how people interact with others in order to meet their own needs. Enneagram was not specifically created with these groups in mind, however the types fit neatly into the three groups. There are three different groups; the assertive types are 3, 7 and 8, the compliant types are 1, 2 and 6 and the withdrawn types are 4, 5, 9.

Note: Each type wants to gain different things depending on whether they are thinking/head (5, 6, 7), feeling/heart (2, 3, 4) or instinctive/gut types (8, 9, 1). Generally, the thinking triad desires security, the feeling triad desires attention and the instinctive triad desires autonomy.

Assertive Types (3, 7, 8): These types are very proactive and direct as they go after what they believe they need. They have strong ideas of what they want and they will act to get their needs met. They can sometimes seem to have a sense of importance or entitlement about them as a result. These types can be independent and assertive, but can seem aggressive and demanding to others. Simply put, they move against others to get what they want (e.g. rebelling or challenging others).

Compliant Types (1, 2, 6): These types are usually very obedient of rules and other people’s feelings and opinions more generally. They attempt to earn their desires and are very driven by their superegos (their moral code, what they ‘should’ do). These types would usually be considered the ‘goody-two shoes’ of the enneagram. These types are usually committed, hard-working and responsible, however they can have a hard time relaxing and letting loose. These types are compliant to those around them, and can often overlook their own needs in favour of others and can seem self-sacrificing.

Withdrawn Types (4, 5, 9): These types withdraw from others and can often seem quite disengaged with the outer world. They withdraw to both deal with their needs and to get their needs met. They can be introspective, imaginative, but they can have trouble taking charge or being direct with others. They are sometimes more involved in their dreams and fantasies, rather than reality. Generally, these types move away from people to get what they want (e.g. withdrawing, becoming introverted).

These groups are easily identifiable, and can often be the cause of mistypings and misidentifications. For example, 6s and 1s are often misidentify with one or the other, as they are both very compliant and obedient towards belief systems. However, 1s are more focused on their own moral code, whereas 6s are more focused on external belief systems or authority figures.

If there is any interest in a particular type, we’re happy to do a post on the specifics, as this a very general overview 😊

Harmonic Types in the Enneagram

These types show how a person will react and cope when they do not get what they want. They reveal the way our personality defends against loss, conflict and disappointment. There are three different groups for the enneagram. They are the positive outlook types (2, 7, 9), the competent types (1, 3, 5) and the reactive types (4, 6, 8).

Positive Outlook: (2, 7, 9): These types react to conflict and disappointment by trying to adopt a ‘positive’ attitude. They will try to reframe the situation in a positive light, and are often considered ‘glass half-full’ people. These types will often deny that they even have a problem, and will try to tell others that they are fine. 2s, 7s, and 9s also often have trouble balancing the needs of themselves with the needs of others around them. For example, 2s focus too much on the needs of others, 7s focus too much on their own needs and 9s can oscillate between the two. As a result, they will often not face their problems head-on and will try to deny their existence.

Competency: (1, 3, 5): These types react to conflict in an unemotional, objective and detached way. They have learnt to put aside their own problems in favour of ‘getting the job done.’ They often try to use logic to solve problems, and expect others will do the same, so they cannot understand the reactions of other types (especially the reactive types). 1s, 3s and 5s are confused about their role in systems and structures, and how much they should follow the rules of said structure. For example, 1s operate within the rules, 3s can do both depending on their goals and 5s often operate outside of the rules. Consequently, they approach their problems in the same way.

Reactive: (4, 6, 8): These types react emotionally to conflicts and their thinking can often be clouded by their feelings and emotions. They want others to react similarly to their problems, and will have strong opinions on certain things. They may be the type to want others to terminate friendships with others because they don’t like them or they betrayed their trust. They deal with their problems quickly and often explode, however after the explosion of emotion they will often move on more quickly than other types. 4s, 6s and 8s are concerned with control and fear being betrayed by others. For example, 4s subconsciously want to be taken care of, 6s want to both take care of and be taken care of and 8s want to be providers and take care of others.

If there is interest, we are happy to elaborate on specific types, as this is just a general overview 😊

Supergirl: Brainy – Type 5w6

Type 5s are often called the Investigator. They are inquisitive, logical and detached. Type 5s have the basic desire to be competent and they often delve deeply into a topic to acquire knowledge in the hope of being seen as knowledgeable, capable and having a greater understanding of the world. Along with this the type 5s fear is being seen as incompetent or useless so they want to gain knowledge as a way to defend themselves from the outside world and people.

Brainy is intelligent, practical and emotionally detached. He relies heavily on interacting with others based off equations and statistics rather than showing his true feelings and emotions. Brainy is very pragmatic and will often look at this statistics in order to make decisions that will in his mind benefit the rest of the group. He takes his role as a scientist very seriously and makes decisions based on facts rather than emotional responses.

At his best, Brainy becomes more emotive and begins to interact with others by showing more of his true feelings. He is inventive and uses his intellect effectively to help and support the team and the people he cares about as he is feeling more confident.

At his worst, Brainy regresses back into his shell and becomes reliant on himself. He becomes more withholding of information, insecure and can retaliate against others aggressively. This can be seen when he is hiding the information about his motives for working with Lex Luthor and he is adamant about pushing Nia Nal away. 

Brainiac can be quite oblivious to the feelings of others. While he is often trying to sit back and observe the reactions and actions of others, he finds it difficult unpacking the motives of others. Nia Nal shows clear interest in Brainy but it takes some time for Brainiac to see that she is romantically interested in him. As their relationship grows, we see through their interactions that Brainy is slow to show his emotions and feelings, but is able to open up and express his emotions to Nia. 

Brainiac has a wing 6 as he is more analytical and emotionally detached than a wing 4. He is very logical and pragmatic and leans to the side of preserving safety rather than creativity. Brainiac is a very loyal friend and can be distrustful of others motivations.

Note: Brainy’s was using an emotional inhibitor to suppress his power, so it was a bit difficult to define his tritype. However, we decided on 1w9 and 2w1, as he is very helpful and wants to do the right thing.

Tri-type: 5w6 – 1w9 – 2w1

Some quotes to describe Brainiac’s motivations:

“There is, objectively, across the entire quantifiable universe. Nothing you could do.”

“I will bring Dreamer with. We will stop Lex from using them for his nefarious purposes. And I will tell Dreamer that I am in love with her.”

“How do I meet this “Keanu Reeves?”

“What does love feel like?”

“I built the glove to harness raw dream energy. So yes, It’s quite rad.”

“I’ve done the
calculations. There’s a 93.2% probability that no one will invite me to
Thanksgiving after I do what must be done.”

“I’m not a robot. I’m techno-organic. I have feelings”

Winn: “Did Mon-El
tell you about my dirt collection?”

Brainy: “No, I ran a diagnostic of your personality, and calculated with a
98..7% certainty that you either collected dirt or New York Mets baseball cards.”

Nia: “Well, Why didn’t you call?
Brainiac: “You told me to find you, not call you.”

Rejection Types Enneagram

Object relations theory suggests that our first relationships as children form our expectations of our future relationships. The three object relation triads in the enneagram are rejection, frustration and attachment. Rejection types are 2, 5 and 8, and these types feel they have been rejected by others, so they reject their own needs.

These types will like to nurture others, but will often have issues of not being nurtured in their relationships. They try to counter rejection by using their talents, so their sense of self is primarily based on these ‘talents’

Type 2s: 2s are driven by their desire to be needed and to help others, so they often reject their own needs in favour of others. 2s feel they need to nurture and help others as this will stop them from being rejected in their relationships. Basically, their sense of self is based on rejecting their own needs and helping others.

Type 5s: 5s are driven by their need of knowledge and are very withdrawn, so they often minimise their own needs, especially physically and emotionally. 5s believe that their usefulness is based on their brain and intellect, so they offer their expertise to others to try and counter rejection. 5s are often very independent and try not to need anyone, so if they are rejected they can feel stable enough in themselves. Basically, their sense of self is based on minimising their own needs and building up their usefulness to combat rejection.

Type 8s: 8s are driven by their need to be strong and independent, so they often reject their emotional and vulnerable side. 8s try to become powerful and strong, so that people will come to them for leadership, and they will not be rejected because they are needed. 8s try to give the impression that they don’t care if they are rejected because they are so ‘strong’ but they are just as afraid of rejection as other types. Put simply, their sense of self is based on gaining strength and will-power to combat rejection.

These types react differently to rejection, for example 2s are the most overtly scared of rejection and will put the most effort into their relationships, whereas 5s and 8s sometimes pretend they don’t need others and will withdraw or react aggressively respectively. All of these types try to do things for others to combat rejection, and when that doesn’t work they can react badly. 2s reject nurturing, because they see themselves as nurturers, 8s reject vulnerabilities and protection as they see themselves as the protector of others, and 5s reject knowledge from others, as they see themselves as the source of knowledge for others.